Sunday, July 28, 2013

The Ball Game

I'm not sure what it is about baseball but I love it. I love the sound of it - the slow hum that cascades imperceptibly into a crescendo of action; the sharp clash of wood beating leather and the strong snap of the glove catching a fly ball. I love the cheers of the crowd and the buzz of the lights. Oh, the crackle of the radio in the dark heat of summer; how I love those old, deep voices that bring to life the story of the game; that open our hearts to the humble heroes of America's game - the original ball players.

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Pulled from the Archives - Happy Retirement Smitty!

I wrote the article below in the summer of 2010 on my good friend and USA teammate Keli Smith Puzo. The story, which featured in the debut issue of  my fictitious hockey magazine, chronicles the iconic life of Puzo as she redefines the image of the American hockey player by taking on new adventures as mother and wife, while flourishing in her traditional role on the field . In the years since this article was written, Keli Smith Puzo has played in the London Olympics, and given birth to another son, Ian. Smitty announced her retirement recently. Congratulations, and Thank You Keli.

Friday, November 16, 2012

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Good Bye Neighbor

The lights whirled. My head spun. I peered through the small square window of indestructible glass. My heart raced. I was uncertain. Was it rude to look?

For a moment our eyes met. I didn’t smile. My face contorted into an uncertain grimace. I wanted to smile. I wanted to open the door, and say something silly, grab his hand and tell him that I cared, and that he’d be okay, and that if he needed anything, we were here, right next door, where we’d always been. Well, where he’d always been.

I didn’t, though. I couldn’t. I was scared. Too scared.

Fear won. The moment between us broke. He threw his head back in mad laughter as he sat the rapturous clutch of pain, still too proud to show weakness. Age hadn’t crippled his stature. He was broad, tall, and strong. His presence commanded attention. His gaze settled upon the roof of the ambulance; I thought maybe I’d been wrong to look.

Tomorrow, he’d be fine. And when he came home, I’d walk across our adjacent driveways; I’d sit on the red painted wooden steps, and finally, like I'd been meaning to since I came home, we’d talk. We’d talk about the Olympics, and America, and the Phillies, and Berlin too.  He’d tell me about Aaron, his grandson, my first friend. He’d ask if I was going to sit still for a while. He’d ask if I was still swinging around that little stick. He'd ask if I was going to get a real job soon.  I’d shrug away the questions, and we’d sit in the contentment of that awkward ageless silence until I’d make up some reason to go home

But for Mr. Schidmt, tomorrow never came. He wasn’t fine.

I thought that he would live forever. I thought that he’d always be there, no matter where I traveled, to the store, to California, or even to Mars, Mr. Schidmt would always be there waiting - in his driveway, on his porch, or at his window - and when my car pulled in, he’d lift his head from whatever he was pretending to be doing, and he’d shout, “About time you came home. Where’ve you been?”
I’d laugh, and mumble to myself, welcome home.

He was a good neighbor. The memorable, iconic sort of neighbor like Mr. Wilson from Dennis the Mennis - always there, always watching, always equipped with some pot-stirring, ball-busting comment. A comment, that no matter how annoying it was, was his way of showing that he cared.

I was in the street running sprints. His gold car sauntered around the corner. Slowly, it crept beside me. He rolled down his window.

“What are you running so fast away from? Looks to me like you don’t have anywhere to go.”

“Nothing to run away from. I’m working out, Mr. Schimdt.” I grumbled, as I ran another sprint, away from him.

That was the last time I spoke with him. The next day, he was gone. It makes me sad. I should have been kinder, more patient. I should have stopped what I was doing, and had that conversation. Because Mr. Schidmt was important to me, more important than a workout. I cared about him. He was as much a part of home as the house I grew up in. And now, he's gone.

When I was young, I called him and his wife “Mike Schidmt’s” parents. They’d taken me to my first Phillies game fostering my devout love of the 1993 National League Champions.

They were kind to me and my siblings, but not overly kind. We'd watch every year, with our fingers crossed, as Mr. Schidmt pulled his ancient fire truck out of the shed and prepared it for the annual Berlin Fourth of July parade, hoping that maybe, just maybe, he’d invite us to ride on it. But he never did, and we never asked. We knew better.

An imaginary fence separated our backyards. Their lawn was a forbidden fortress of pristine green grass. The perfect place for afternoon cartwheels. Their garden was a ball-guzzling maze. We knew better than to chase after our balls. 

When we did something that didn’t please him, we heard about it. He'd call my mom on the phone, “Motherrrrrr,” he’d say, “Please tell your kids to turn the music down," or “Motherrrrr, let your daughter Hannah know that she is not to call me ‘Old Man’ like her father.”

Despite the trouble he got us in, he was a good neighbor. He accepted us for who we were. He was real with us. He didn’t pamper us with praise or attention, but he respected us. I think, deep down, a part of him even liked us.

Because every Christmas, he’d walk to our front door, bang a few times – obnoxiously hard - walk in, just a few feet, say a few words, and then he’d stand there and watch as we chaotically opened our presents.

He never sat down. He’d just stand there, watching, and when he’d had enough, he’d leave. I'd never have a chance to say goodbye.

And that's how he left the world too. The old, strong, tall, proud man next door, the good neighbor who was supposed to live forever, had had enough, and left. 

And when he left, he took a part of home with him. He won't be there waiting to welcome me home with a "Where you been, or what you doing." There won't be a day that I don't wish I had taken the time to say "Good Bye, Neighbor."

Monday, November 12, 2012

Update: Pick Up in the Park

Week Two: Pick Up in the Park. What a turn out.  We had over 25 people show up and play. Great local representation - mothers, daughters, fathers, sons, sisters, brothers, neighbors, and friends. Everyone got competitive and joined in on the play.  Novices competed against Olympians, All-Americans, and High School Football Coaches. What was the common denominator?  Competitive fun for all.
This week's Pick Up Session will take place on Thursday, November 15 at 6:30pm. We will play under the lights on the tennis courts at Berlin Park. It'll be the first go on the tennis courts. Be patient. Eat dinner, then come play. 
Just an FYI, I'll be away this Sunday. Please don't let that stop you from arranging a game. Remember, all you have to do is Show Up and Play.  

Pick Up in the Park: Upcoming Week
Purpose: To empower creative play, develop competitive instincts, grow leaders, and unite our community with sport. It’s spontaneous. It’s adventurous. It’s free. All you have to do is show up and play. 
When: Thursday, November 15, 6:30pm 
Where: Tennis Courts at Berlin Park 
What: We’ll be playing Hybrid Hockey. Field Hockey with a tennis ball. 
Who: All Welcome. Moms, Dads, teens, kids. Experts and Novices alike. Sport for all. 
What to Bring: If you have a hockey stick, bring it. If you want to wear shin guards or a mouth guard,  your call. I’ll have some extra hockey sticks if you don’t own one. Tape your stick if you don’t want it dragging along the concrete. 
Important Note: This is not a clinic, or a league. There’s no red tape or insurance. Play at your own risk. It’s organic play. Time to be spontaneous, to explore and create.

For more information on Pick Up in the Park Concept, read links below.

Join Her. The Blue Collar Kid.
Anytime, Anywhere. We Can Play. 

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Join Her. The Blue Collar Kid

Kylie Dawson at the on Nov. 4 Pick Up in the Park
I look out onto the field, but she's not there. The fierce, nitty-gritty, blue collar, I'll-find-a-way-where-there's-not-a-way-kid is no where to be found. Where has she gone? 

What have we done to her?

I miss her. I miss watching her play. I miss the ferocity and focus of her eyes.  I miss her anger, her tears, her post game spazzes. I miss her exploration, her creativity. I miss her determination, her passion. 

What have we done to her?

Have the exorbiant costs of youth sports forced her out of the game? Have we praised pretty too much or patted her too often on the back. Have we overemphasized skill and dimmed her competitive instinct. 

The early specialization, the debilitating costs, the pressure. Where's the fun in the game? Where's the exploration? The creativity? Where are the dialogues of different perspectives? The constructive conversations that promote progress? 

Is our system too black or white, too right or wrong? Too often do we have an end in sight? 

Have we developed strategies to win and not skill sets to compete? 

Do we truly encourage exploration, creativity, and progress beyond the point that we’ve determined the destination? 

Where is the Blue Collar Kid? 

I'm sure she's where she's always been, doing what she's always done. She's in the yard, or on the court, playing. 

And its time we join her. 

Pick Up in the Park.

Purpose: To empower creative play, develop competitive instincts, grow leaders, and unite our community. It’s spontaneous. It’s adventurous. It’s free. All you have to do is show up and play.

When: This Sunday 11am

Where: Roller Hockey Rink at Berlin Park across from the Berlin Farmer’s Market. We can use the tennis courts too.

What: We’ll be playing Hybrid Hockey. Field Hockey with a tennis ball.

Who: All Welcome. Moms, Dads, teens, kids. Experts and Novices alike. Sport for all.

What to Bring: If you have a hockey stick, bring it. If you want to wear shin guards or a mouth guard,  your call. I’ll have some extra hockey sticks if you don’t own one. Tape your stick if you don’t want it dragging along the concrete.

Important Note: This is not a clinic, or a league. There’s no red tape or insurance. Play at your own risk. It’s organic play. Time to be spontaneous, to explore and create.

A Little Secret: Can't make it? You can post and host your own pick up game